As most women have learned — often painfully — a man can avoid emotional intimacy through compartmentalization.
For example, he might place you in the “attractive enough to flirt with (or sleep with)” category but NOT “future girlfriend or wife.” If you’ve experienced the pain of a man holding you at arm’s length, and you never want to go there again, what can you do?
For most men, some compartmentalization is part of a normal coping strategy.
To better understand these masculine boundaries — which women often mistake for emotional unavailability — I invite you to examine compartmentalization from both male and female perspectives.
Getting closer will be his idea, and it will feel natural to him to put your relationship at the center of all he does.
If she locks eyes with you across the room for more than 3 seconds, you are in her thoughts. Go over and say hi if you are interested, don’t turn away and ignore her or she may move on.
(It's his loss, if he coded you wrong.)An emotional bond — which is what women usually mean by "being in love" — takes time to develop.
Remember, he has already placed you into some category, based on his instinctive assessment.
~Acknowledge her~• If you are the initiator & she smiles back or shyly looks away, she is also interested!
Many women are nervous around someone they are attracted to.
From a man’s perspective, it’s reasonable to keep you in that box, peeking inside only when he feels like it.
You exist for him at work, but not when he’s at home.
Consider these 3 observations: It is reflexive — he’s often not aware that he’s doing it.