In our household ‘baggage’ is considered a swear word.
‘Baggage’ implies a disadvantage; something bulky and extra, weighing you down. However, growing up in a society that sees single motherhood as a one way ticket to loneliness, poverty and the benefits system, I see where the ‘b’ word has come from.
But it’s taken me a while and a lot of bad dates to get here. When I first returned to dating, I didn’t mention my son on my online dating profiles, or when I met men in real life.
Because of the stigma surrounding single parents and myths I was believing at the time, my subconscious told me I would have more luck keeping my profile baby-free. On my first date after being pregnant, dumped and giving birth – when my self-esteem had hit rock bottom – I sat opposite a man who visibly quivered when I revealed I was a mum and compared my child to his ongoing battle with Crohn’s disease.
You’re a mum, yes, but you’re also a woman who wants to flirt and enjoy a nice glass of wine in some adult company.
I think it’s important to make clear to the person you are dating that you aren’t looking for any help with parenting.
The data for this measure come from the 20 Supplementary Survey and the 2002 through 2016 American Community Survey (ACS).
The 2000 through 2004 ACS surveyed approximately 700,000 households monthly during each calendar year. Census Bureau expanded the ACS sample to 3 million households (full implementation), and in January 2006 the ACS included group quarters.
Which leads on to…It’s so easy to fall into the trap of believing you have to explain how you came to be a single parent.Data Source: Population Reference Bureau, analysis of data from the U. Census Bureau, Census 2000 Supplementary Survey, 2001 Supplementary Survey and 2002 through 2016 American Community Survey (ACS).These data were derived from American Fact Finder table C23008 (). When you’re a parent, things can feel even tougher.When I first started dating again after my son (who is now three) was born, my confidence and self-belief couldn’t have been lower.
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