Rachel’s areas of expertise include relationships, self-esteem, dating, mindfulness, anxiety, depression and stress management. Self improvement books for men are the ones most guys get defensive about. If thinking of your job gets you down and you don’t have a plan to get out FOR GOOD in the next 2 years, stop reading now, and pick up this book.If you doubt you can do the awesome things detailed in the other books, read this book.If you think you are God’s gift to everyone you meet, read this book. (Some people struggle with the first 50 or so pages.Visiting museums, reading, starting a new hobby, going to concerts or changing a habit are other ways to tap into your creativity. Have a grateful and optimistic attitude about life, which naturally brings hope, happiness and confidence. You will feel better about your life if you feel good about your choices and actions while listening to your inner voice. Make time for your hobbies, get involved in your community, take a class on a topic of interest or join a local group.Practice daily gratitude by writing down three parts of your day you are grateful for, writing down two lessons you learned from the day or three qualities you are proud of in yourself. This may include setting appropriate boundaries by saying no when you need to, not gossiping, speaking with kindness and using your intuition. Following your passion and engaging in healthy interactions with others are important for your self-esteem.Remember, our attitudes and feelings about ourselves have significant effects on our happiness and quality of life.
This involves tuning into and taking care of your own needs, accepting your strengths and weaknesses, recognizing your positive qualities and making choices that enhance your personal wellbeing. Use positive self-talk and be your own cheerleader. Be good to yourself by getting adequate sleep, taking care of your personal hygiene, creating time to be alone, saying no when you need to, eating in nutritious ways, stimulating your mind and connecting with others. You may wonder if you represented yourself well or if you said the wrong thing.
Change thoughts such as “I’m a loser” or “I always mess things up” to statements that are more positive and encouraging. Regular exercise fends off depression, low energy and disease while increasing stress management abilities and enhancing your mood. These tendencies easily create anxiety and self-judgment.
Tell yourself you can handle it and support yourself in going after your goals. Remind yourself that you are doing your best and let these thoughts pass. Give yourself permission to like what you like and not like what you don’t like. Practice self-acceptance by exploring who you are and recognizing all of your qualities, even if they don’t feel positive in nature. Be creative to help your brain function more efficiently and effectively.
Most guys protect their egos by refusing to accept they might have something to learn about girls or sex or making a living. Tim says it best: most people’s idea of a a job “is predicated on the assumption that you dislike what you are doing during the most physically capable years of your life. This book tears that paradigm apart and gives you the perspective to become so much more than your job title.
It’s easier to put on the blinders than to admit deficiencies and begin the hard journey towards improvement. This is a nonstarter—nothing can justify that sacrifice.” And after years of investing your energy into something you aren’t really even passionate about “your job description becomes your self description.” Fuck. It will help you focus on the most important things in life and free your time to live fully.
At times, we allow our relationship status, a harsh comment, negative feedback, a bad date or a missed opportunity to cloud over the sources of light and joy in our lives.