I’m typically attracted to alpha males so I was very confused by his behavior.
After 6 months I asked him what we were and he said “you want me to be your boyfriend” then we are boyfriend/girlfriend!
Glad it turned on a few light bulbs in helping you realize how a few of your behaviors have been ineffective in forging a relationship with a man.
But I have to say that if I had to write the whole thing again, I would have taken a few pages to put in a caveat: This advice doesn’t work for every single woman in every single situation with every single guy.
My question: We’re texting everyday, but he’ll wait FOREVER, (in actuality, 5-7 days) before asking to see me again. Is this a downside of dating a typical beta (i.e., no initiative) or is he just not that interested in me?
For all of the women who are reading this who would not be able to tolerate such behavior from your guy and prefer a take-charge man, do yourself a favor and pick up a copy of “Why He Disappeared”. I wish I read this 6 months ago when I was dating a beta male cause I thought he just wasnt into me and we had many conversations about that.
He accepted me planning everything and anything but I am a beta female and there was 18 years age difference so I think that was what bothered me too.
But while you’ve adjusted your take-charge attitude, you haven’t adjusted for the fact that you’re NOT dating a take-charge guy.
Take charge guys are the ones who will always follow up quickly, make plans, make the first move, and claim you as their girlfriends.
They would sooner wait to get a written notice in the mail that you’re really, truly interested in them than to follow up too much and potentially make you uncomfortable. So you’re not wrong to curb a little bit of that domineering side.