But there are also plenty of people who are uncomfortable with Taylor and Paulson’s 32-year age difference.
One of the most-liked Facebook comments on the article reads: “This is really gross.
“We just kind of got each other, a right away thing.
Being older, I realize how rare it is to really mesh with somebody like that.” Their friendship inevitably evolved.
According to 2014 data compiled by the Williams Institute, 31% of married same-sex female couples have a 5- to 10-year age difference, compared to 21% of married different-sex couples; for 10-plus years, those numbers are 16% and 8%, respectively. While naysayers insist that relationships like Holland Taylor and Sarah Paulson’s don't make them uncomfortable for an explicitly gay reason, significant age differences between lesbians aren’t actually divorced from their queerness at all — these differences are a nontraditional aspect of coupledom borne from queerness itself.
Women who date significantly up or significantly down radically subvert heteronormative standards for what’s appropriate when it comes to sex and love.
In the newly released season two of Transparent, there's another distinctly Myles-like older dyke poet character (Myles and Transparent's creator, Jill Soloway, are currently dating), who, when hanging around with a younger woman, deals with an awkward Is-that-your-girlfriend-or-your-daughter mixup.
That’s for sure.” Myles is clearly a model upon which Weitz crafted his titular character, played with some serious panache by Lily Tomlin: She’s a lapsed academic; she’s a poet; and she’s dating a younger woman, played by 40-year-old Judy Greer.
Straight men think that’s OK to ask.”Greta Martela, 46, and Nina Chaubal, 24, also say their relationship gets misinterpreted.
The two started hanging out as just friends a few years ago, beginning with a trip to get their nails done.
This past March, they got married, and in April they moved to Chicago to build a life together.
But they’re rarely read as the wives that they are. Stop.”“Power exchanges between women are always pathologized,” Myles says.
It was Chaubal’s first time at a salon, when both women were in the early stages of their gender transitions; a lot of traditionally feminine activities still had the sparkling sheen of newness.