Yes, Tom Daley, as he explains in this intimate and moving video, is dating a guy. Sperling had, at least judging from the video, a supportive cast of friends and family who clearly supported and loved him. (Attorney, writer, civil rights advocate, performer, and professional speaker are just a few of the hats he wears so jauntily.) In the end, it still comes down to that video. A real man would never say words like ‘pansy’, ‘fruit’, ‘flamer’ or ‘faggot.’ A real man doesn’t need to attack. Not because they look good on her, not because they were chosen by her boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband, but because she likes them, she’s comfortable in them, and she’s confident enough to pull it off.
Though he says he still fancies girls, he had found a guy who makes him feel “so happy, and safe, and everything just feels great”. “Right now I’m dating a guy, and I couldn’t be happier.” ~ Tom Daley There are lots of questions left – is he gay? A boy walked into his Bar Mitzvah, dressed in a baggy suit, to the cheers of his family and friends. As the world now knows, it was the last one, courtesy of NBA player Jason Collins. Most of the time a real man doesn’t even need to defend. A real woman is someone who is happy enough in her own skin to not care whether her pants are knakis or jeans, who holds her head up high because she knows who she is, not because she knows no one will say anything as long as she’s in a dress.
I do have memories of many things in Vietnam that are not pleasant, I just remember that is the past and continue on in my life with the memories, however unpleasant they may be, reminding myself that today is a new day and the past is past.
I cannot change the past, only live for the future.
Their own children may one day look with shame upon these pictures, wondering at how the mother or father they loved so much could put forth such hateful words against innocent people they never even met. The best rebuttal ever, by the pro-marriage-equality side, when asked to write a message to those who oppose marriage equality.(All captions are solely the inappropriate ramblings of my own mind.) Aside from the unfortunate eye-make-up (ewww indeed – and we will never help you out with that if you don’t change your hateful ways) here is another instance of that tricky woman/women confusion.One would think that, being so staunchly against being with another woman, she would be less confused. _________________________________________________________________________ Now onto some slightly more serious commentary on these photos. It takes balls to be so unabashedly who you are, without apology or explanation or excuses. Mine was all apathy and illusion, a desperate disguise, a fervent hope to not be discovered. Sperling’s YOUniversity work celebrates “authenticity, self-respect, compassion, acceptance, and making your dreams come true”, and while it may sound a little Oprah-like, it’s not without merit. Having appeared on the Ellen De Generes show (with none other than Madonna herself), the Today Show, Jimmy Kimmel Live, and Huffington Post Live, he and his viral Vogue video have showcased a gay teenager who went on to do great things. A real man is someone who is happy enough in his own skin to not care what color his shirt or sweater is, who holds his head up high because he knows who he is, not because he knows no one will say anything as long as he’s in blue. For me, a real woman is someone who can wear pants. Sperling was aware of that at a young age, and today works to make sure that the message gets through to everyone. It takes everything I didn’t have, not in any real way. Not because it looks good on him, not because it was chosen by his girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife, but because he likes it, he’s comfortable in it, and he’s confident enough to pull it off.