Eventually, I stopped reaching out because it was starting to make me feel like an idiot…and he was never to be heard from again.
I dated many, guys after Craig and let me tell you, whenever I’ve been overly available I went through that same cycle.
What it really comes down to is being a woman who values herself and is confident in who she is.
When you are this person, you won’t have to “play games” and will naturally activate a man’s natural desire to pursue.
I am not saying get him to pursue you by acting unavailable, I’m saying actually be unavailable.
By that, I mean fill your life with fun, meaningful activities.
While in theory that makes sense, in reality, Craig started pulling away more and more.
If this is true, those men in the white coats should have been on me like white on rice. I had a very needy mindset and I derived way too much of my self-worth from how men responded to be. (To know what it does look like, check out this article: 10 Things Confident People Do Differently in Dating and Relationships.) It took a long time to realize I needed to stop prioritizing guys above myself, at least until he started treating like a priority.
There were forces working against us and I didn’t want to make things worse by being unaccommodating.
My schedule was more flexible than his so it made sense that I should work around his schedule, right?
And do not cancel any of these fun, meaningful activities just because he calls and wants to see you.
When you have a fulfilling life of your own that exists completely separate from him, you will automatically be seen as having great value.
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