It’s more understandable in those passionate early days when you can’t keep your hands off each other, but in an established relationship overt displays of affection seem more about performance than genuine feeling.
If you feel you need to show off your relationship status in public, it could signal that you’re insecure about it and overcompensating. Whether you’re consciously doing it or not, you’re projecting an idealised image of your relationship.
Unfortunately, the more intimate the public display of affection, the more intimacy may be lacking behind closed doors.
And don’t forget; the rules surrounding PDA also extend onto online. Sharing a partner’s post, uploading an intimate photo and commenting publicly on their walls all count as public displays of affection. Sharing news of a partner’s new job or the occasional couple selfie is acceptable – and will likely generate plenty of likes from your friends – but daily, gushing, expressions of love will sour public opinion quickly. And did you know that your PDA of choice could have a hidden meaning?
While you’re wrapped up in the romance of it all, witnesses to your public displays of affection could feel anything from horror and disgust to delight! Hand holding may be fine, but you probably wouldn’t indulge in heavy petting! Are you taking a romantic stroll on the banks of a river with almost no-one around?
Or are you crammed into a corner on a packed rush-hour tube? People who object to PDAs often wonder why couples do it. Why do they feel the need to involve everyone rather than be affectionate behind closed doors?
It’s a casual gesture but also a display of unity, showing your strength as a couple.Some couples would never dream of going beyond holding hands or linking arms outside of the house, while others are comfortable being all over each other wherever they are.Even so, it’s the reaction of onlookers that really matters. A good rule of thumb is whether you’d be happy with your grandparents seeing whatever you’re doing.If you're in a boozy bar, there's likely to be hand-holding and kissing among both straight and gay couples.If you're in a church, the bar should be lower for everybody." With funding from the Canadian Institutes of Health Research, Blair will embark on a two-year probe of the gay PDA: what it does for LGBT couples and how it impacts others in their midst.