” —Steven Gartland, Poughkeepsie, NY Love lesson: It’s so simple, but when people are working to impress another person, they can forget to focus on, well, that other person.
“The formula for writing the first email is very easy: Take one thing out of the person’s profile and say you noticed it,” says Liz Kelly, dating coach and author of .
“Before you get to know one another, cleverness can come off as sarcastic,” warns Judsen Culbreth, author of .
Too many guys are too glib and just try to outwit me.Ask thought-provoking questions that will reveal insightful traits.Take the experience of Paul who met his fiancée Stephanie through e Harmony.ouldn’t it be great if every time you sent a message to a member whose profile you dug, you heard back right away with a friendly “You sound intriguing. Well, unfortunately, it won’t always happen, but there are things you can write to increase your chances of engaging your crush in an e-conversation.We asked online daters to reveal what aspect of a suitor’s email piqued their interest and prompted them to hit “reply.” By hearing their stories, you’ll learn how to tweak your own missives so that the objects of your affection will want to know lots more about you.
Case history: “What works for me is when a guy mentions something unexpected, because it makes me totally curious and shows that he’s got more going on than a 9-to-5 job.