You pretty much state this, but not until the bottom of a really really long post.
Ugh, as a woman, I would find most of these questions nauseating. If you have to make up ridiculous questions to "seduce" me--well, it wasn't going to work in the first place. I’m also a woman (yay to the sisterhood) and I’m just trying to help people for when they get stuck initially, so they can find that flow.
Of course, when the girl is extroverted and does most of the talking (ideal scenario, people feel the date went better when they do the talking) or the chemistry is crazy, yeah the conversation takes very little effort. Are there other types of people you don't like? If your date has any sort of anxiety she might feel uncomfortable eating food in front of you on a first date. And these help if you’re struggling for what else to talk about. Like, I have loads and loads of things I could do for fun and I could never tell you them all.
Hell, these are good even for a pre-date online scenario too. For some reason, I can't change the numbered list to show the right number for each question... " Or "Oh so that smell doesn't really bother you that much? It's a very considerable time investment for her. You spend the whole time dealing with the awkwardness of eating and talking simultaneously. “What is the most exciting/fun thing you’ve done this week? It would make her think and not just give a recited answer about going to the gym and traveling. Try some of these out and see if it makes the date more exciting. But I have a standard go-to answer that I give every time, because I’m used to people asking that as their first question... But doesn’t make me think he’s especially cool/intelligent/interesting/exciting.
Help with dating, learn to be a pickup artist (PUA), fix your Game.Whether through choice of school programs and extracurricular activities in college (I was a public relations major and I was in a sorority, both of which required a certain level of communications skills), or fields of work post-graduation (I work in nonprofits which tend to not only attract a wide variety of employees, but also a very diverse clientele), I’ve mostly always been around people who are pretty decent at holding a conversation. Trying to talk to men on dating apps is so horrifically painful.I didn’t know it was possible for people to be so horrendous at conversation.Imagine you’re on a date and you sit down in the nice restaurant. • If you found these helpful, I actually compiled a list of 101 first date conversation starters, with more like these, plus deeper questions to ask as the date progresses. After a few moments, the smiling turns a tiny bit awkward and since you don’t know what else to ask, you blurt out “So…. Here’s 30 to get the ball rolling: Who is your favourite Disney villain?
While we are worried about who should message who first, or making sure we don’t respond right away so as not to seem over-eager, someone who would have been good for us might be meeting someone else who actually talks to them like a normal person.