So months or years go by and the girl just figures (even after all this time) that if she just loves him enough, he’ll be strong enough to love her back.
At this point, she’s in deep too – she’s invested so much into a relationship that she hopes will someday happen, but has yet to ever make its debut into reality.
What ends up happening is he becomes dependent on her to be his emotional crutch.
The girl will make sure that he’s as emotionally dependent on him as she can get him to be.
In these arrangements, you’ll notice that when one side starts to stray, the other side will undermine them.
If the guy starts getting himself together, the girl will find some way to subtly undermine his progress – usually through comfort, but sometimes through less pleasant means.
On the one hand, he cares for her and wants her around. The rationale he makes in his head is that once he “gets himself together” (that is, he starts actually the things in his life that he intends to do), he’ll break things off with his not-girlfriend all good and tidy and go for the girl he actually wants to be with. most people go their whole lives The girl supports him emotionally and faithfully acts as his crutch so that he can find his strength and become the man he’s always wanted to be.
After all, he feels better when she’s there versus when she’s not. She aims to bring him comfort and relief from his painful and tragic life.
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